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Thursday, March 12, 2009

Sad News

Thank you all so much for your well wishes, it means so much to Bonnie and I.
Rob passed away late afternoon (New Zealand time) on Wednesday, due to complications after the op, they tried to relieve pressure on his brain due to the swelling, but it was too late, they discovered he was brain dead, so my sister in law had his life support switched off as he had wanted this if anything had gone wrong. I am grateful that Laurie, my sister in law, had time to be with him and say goodbye. She is a very strong person and so far is coping. She has a beautiful little daughter and needs to be strong for her too. I have happy
memories of Rob, we were so fortunate to spend a holiday together in December, and those are the memories I have of him, a healthy fun loving person. We will miss him terribly. Bonnie and I are not flying to New Zealand anymore, my dad needs us and I am instead flying to Cape Town early next week to spend time with my family. Laurie has her family to support her there. Life is so unpredictable and unfortunately death is part of life and we have to deal with it and go on.

I will not be around much the next week , we just need time to deal with the sadness.

55 comments:

Tina said...

Dear Jenni! I´m so sorry for your loss. I´ll be thinking of you and your family. It´s a gift that you could spent time togethr in December. Love, Tina.

Kristine said...

Oh Jenni,
I am so sorry to hear of your brother's passing. My condolences go out to you and the entire clan. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hugs~
Kristine

sdwrdt said...

So sorry about your brother. Glad you were able to spend time in December! Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

charlie said...

Dera jenni , I read about this on binnies blog and It just brought me to tears..my thoughts and prayers are with you guys at this sad time..so glad you got to spend special times with your brother in December Take care lovely lady
love
Charlie

By Dezign said...

Hi Jenni, I'm so sorry to hear about the tragic loss of your brother. My deepest most sincere condolences. At times like this I don't know what to say, but if I was close I know what I'd do. Just hug you and let you cry on my shoulder.

Much love
Ren

Bonnie said...

I love you lots Jen, you are the best sister anyone could ask you. Everyone is telling me how strong I am being, but I really just feel so weak and so terribly, terribly cut to the heart. I feel so cheated. I am sure you do to. Rob was so young and was so enjoying his life right now before this, the worst for me is to know how he leaves behind Meg, it breaks my heart to know she doesn't have a dad to watch her grow up. I know what that is like having lost mom so young. Everytime a big event happened in my childhood and through life, I thought of her, just like Meg will think of her dad. I am so grateful to have you to lean on. You are my pillar. I love you lots.

Sharon aka Scrapcat4914 said...

You & your family are in my prayers!!!!!!!!!!!
I know its not easy as its been 8 years since I lost my Husband due to brain injury from a fall
HUGE HUGS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

belle said...

Deepest condolences to you and your family.

Deb said...

I'm so sorry you lost your brother and your little niece lost her father. My prayers are with you all and I hope you can help comfort your father, as loosing as loosing a child, even if they are grown up children, would be hard. Take Care.
Deb

Anonymous said...

Jenni, I am so, so sorry! Life is so unpredictable, I can only imagine what you must be going through right now. Please accept my condolences. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time.
~Nancy

geezee said...

Love and prayers being sent for your entire family. It's good that this little girl has such a family with memories to share with her as she grows up. I am sure you have many good things to remember him by for her sake.

Gail said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Leia said...

I am so so sorry. :(

Fanfan said...

I'm really sorry for you!!! It's so sad.... I think to you and your family... Be strong...

Stephe said...

My deepest condolenses. Life is so unpredictable. You are blessed to have just spent a wonderful holiday together!!!! What an amazing gift since you all lived so far apart! He'll be forever with you in your heart! Stephe

Caryn said...

Jen, I'm so sorry. I will be keeping you all in prayer.
Much love,
Caryn

makeyesup said...

So very sorry to hear about your brother. Life can be so difficult at times. Just remember that God is with you and holds you up during those times. Prayers are with you and all the family. So sad when a little one loses a parent. My sweet daughter was only 9 at the time her Dad died and it was so very traumatic.

Maryse said...

I don't know what to say...I'm so sorry for you.
I will keep you in my thoughts.

Kim's Scrappin' said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your brother, my heart goes out to you. You and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers.

peggy said...

Jen, I'm so sorry to read about your brother. I wish you and your family lots of strength!

Dinphy said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this. It must sadden you all so much. You sound strong, and even positive about the good things you had. That's amazing, and wonderful.

My heart goes out to his little girl and his wife too... Such a sad sad thing.

Sending good thoughts to all his loved ones, and wishing you all lots of strength.

GSCreations said...

Hi Jenni
May love and light surround you and your family during this time, im very sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you.

Judy said...

Jen I am so so very sorry to read of the loss of your brother. How fortunate were you to have him visit in December and so treasure those last moments you were able to spend with him.
My prayers and thoughts are with you and his wife and daughter.

Penny S said...

So sorry for your loss. As you say Death is a part of life - not an easy part but a part. Keep your memories close and they will help you through the tough times ahead.

CatLady said...

Jen, I am so sorry for your and your family's loss. You are in my prayers.

Pat said...

Jen, please accept my condolances on the loss of your brother.

Laramie said...

Jen I am so sorry to hear about the death of your brother and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so glad you had time with him in Dec.

Elaine said...

I am so sorry to hear of your & your family's loss. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family. Hugs, Elaine

Lorie M Designs said...

It's so sad to read news like this...I'm so sorry Jen, prayers for your brother.

Sabine said...

Oh Jenni, I am so sorry for your loss. It happened so quickly, you will need time to realize all that means. I am glad you managed a great time with your brother and sister last December.
My thoughts are with you and your family.

AdronsCatherine said...

I am so sorry, Jenni. I hope and pray that you and your family are able to find peace and comfort in this difficult time. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

ida macken said...

Jen & Bonnie, I am so very sorry to hear about your brother, my thoughts and prayers are with you both {{{Hugs}}}

Nancy said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending many healing thoughts to you and Bonnie and to your family.

Amy Lee said...

Jen and Bonnie, I am SO sorry for your loss :( My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. {{{HUGS}}}

Kim B said...

Just me sending some love to you both- let you know I've been thinking of you today!

(((HUGS))

Beth Long said...

Oh Jen... I'm so sorry for your family's loss... wish I were there to give ya a HUG in person. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your sis. We LOVE you guys!!!

Pienzchen said...

I am so sorry to read this! I cannot imagine your loss, nor what it must be for your family, let alone his wife and daughter...
I will pray for you all, for strength, wholeness and a lot of love for you all.

DigiLover said...

Jen I am so very very sorry to hear of yours and Bonnie's tragic loss of your beloved brother.

words cannot express how saddened I am to hear of this news.

You, Bonnie and your brother's wife and family are all in my thoughts and prayers at this tragic time.

Sending big hugs to you all.

love
Vicki

Silvie said...

I'm very sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and your family. But you are right: death is part of life and so we all have to deal with it.

I'll light a candle...

Silvie from Germany

T3R3SA said...

Jen,

So sorry for your loss.
Hope you have so many joyful memories that will comfort you.

Hugs,
Teresa

szilvia said...

oh hun, i'm so sorry for you loss! i'm thinking of you all, be strong and take good care of yourselves.
xo,
-sz

marianne said...

oh hun!! sending you condolences and prayers and hugs. So very sorry to hear of your loss. {{HUGS}} mazzie

thescrappywife said...

Sending prayers for comfort, peace and strength.

Blessings~

Krisi and Adam said...

I have never been to your blog but was looking for you DSO March Kit - I am so sorry to hear about your brother. I will be praying for your family and his family.

tiggersmom said...

I am so sorry for you and your family's loss. Know that your in my thoughts and prayers.

deb (tiggersmom)

Rachelle said...

Jen, so sorry for your loss. He looks like he was a wonderful man.

Rachelle (mattchel67)

angmag55 said...

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Brother! This is so sad and so unexpected when something like a Brain Aneurysm strikes a Loved One! I lost a Cousin to this she dropped dead just like that no warning. Her Dad had passed away from Cancer just a few months before this and her Mom and it was just devastating to the whole Family!! My Prayers are being said for your Family and God Be with You all.
Peggy K

~Holly said...

Dear Jen, I am so so sorry to hear of your brother's sudden aneurysm and passing. What a shock. You, Bonnie, your father, your SIL and neice are in my thoughts and prayers. Life is very unpredictable and I'm glad you have some support and recent memories to lean on right now. Much love and hugs...

~Holly

~B~ Creations said...

Dear Jen.
I am so sorry to hear about your tragic loss. We had a very close friend that this happened to and it can really knock you off of your feet. As you said, it's just so unexpected.
I will keep you, your sister Bonnie and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
~~~With Sympathy & Warm Hugs~~~
~Bethany~

Vera said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. My deepest sympathies Jen. {{{{{hugs}}}}}

mel_h said...

hi jenni! i am so sorry for you and bonnie.. i am thinking about both of you and wishing you all the love and support you need to get through this.
much love,
mel xxxxxxxxxx

Christy said...

My heart goes out to you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss Jenn. You are all in my prayers. God Bless,
Christy

Ruth said...

Jen and Bonnie,
Deepest condolences to you and your family.

{HugsHugs} RuthMelody

Shannon - Desert Designs said...

So so sorry Jen! Sending prayers for peace and comfort your way.(((HUGS)))

Shannon - Desert Designs said...

So so sorry Jen! Sending prayers for peace and comfort your way.(((HUGS)))